{"id":7246,"date":"2017-10-05T20:51:54","date_gmt":"2017-10-06T03:51:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stapletonion.com\/?p=7246"},"modified":"2020-07-03T04:39:12","modified_gmt":"2020-07-03T04:39:12","slug":"stapleton-man-resents-friend-who-no-longer-needs-babysitters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stapletonion.com\/?p=7246","title":{"rendered":"Stapleton Man Resents Friend No Longer Needing Babysitters"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"241\" height=\"160\" src=\"https:\/\/stapletonion.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/resentful-man.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-7874\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>John Ubben and Duane Koellner have been Stapleton friends for 10 years. They go golfing, go to games, and have nights out with their wives. \u201cWe\u2019ve spent a lot of time together over the years,\u201d said Ubben. \u201cWe\u2019re fairly like-minded, so we have a lot of fun and never have to worry about boring conversations.\u201d Although Ubben and Koellner are about the same age, Ubben has young kids, five and seven, and Koellner has a 16 year old and a 14 year old. \u201cWe never really do much as families, because obviously the age difference is too big,\u201d said Koellner. \u201cIn fact, my daughter babysits their kids sometimes.\u201d Most Stapleton friendships are forged on having kids around the same age(s) that can keep each other distracted for a while, but these couples make time for each other without their kids. Recently, however, Ubben has become a little resentful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThat dick can do anything he wants,\u201d said Ubben. \u201cAt the drop of a hat, they can decide to go somewhere. Hell, we see the two of them out for breakfast with each other. No kids. Their kids can just stay at home, obviously. We\u2019re still in the thick of babysitter mode. Totally screwed and tied to our kids.\u201d Ubben says he thinks Koellner is unaware of his bitterness. \u201cI try not to say anything,\u201d said Ubben. \u201cWhat can he do? Start hiring a sitter again to make me feel better? It\u2019s just the way it is. I have to find a sitter for a while and deal with that costly and annoying part of life.\u201d Ubben says he is working to combat his anger. \u201cWe are actually trying to find new friends who have newborns, or maybe even two and four year olds. That way, we know that in a few years, we can be the ones being resented for not having to get a sitter. It would feel really good to be on the other side of this.\u201d For Koellner\u2019s part, they don\u2019t seem to throw it in the face of the Ubbens. \u201cThey are never showy about it or anything,\u201d said Ubben. \u201cBut, it\u2019s still hard to deal with. I see them just freewheeling life, and here we are. Completely reliant on a sitter if we want to go out. Maybe if they paid for our dinner every time knowing we had the extra $100 sitter bill waiting at home, that would be nice.\u201d Ubben believes he has four to five more years of gutting out his resentment. 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