Mothers of Pre-Schoolers Discuss Something Other Than Where Kids Will Attend School

women talking about something else besides kids schoolMost parents appreciate the importance of a child’s education, and therefore, put lots of thought into where their child will attend school. Stapleton is a great example of this, as many residents moved from their hip Denver neighborhood specifically for the possibility of a stronger education for their children. “We used to live in the Highlands,” says Stapleton resident Allie Haugen. “We planned to stay there, but once our son turned one, we had to confront the fact that we would have to send him to private school or would have to move. So, here we are.” Stapleton schools are almost always a hot topic of conversation, whether it be the boundary issue, where a school will be located, or the style of teaching a school will use. And with school choice coming up quickly, Stapleton schools once again dominate parents’ conversations.

“We have been doing a lot of research over the last year,” says parent Shannon Williams. “We have talked to parents of schools, principals of the schools, and teachers. Plus, we have done our research on the most effective teaching styles. I continue to talk to any parent I can.” Williams wants to make sure she chooses wisely when it comes time to enroll. “We don’t want to make the wrong decision for our daughter. The long term consequences of choosing the wrong Stapleton elementary school could be devastating.”

Molly McDonald has been doing similar research. “We have probably talked to each principal 10 times,” says McDonald. “It has been pretty exhausting. We keep a file with comments from parents, as well as an excel file complete with strengths and weaknesses of each school. Of course, it would also be nice if our son had friends who were going to the school, but his education is more important than having buddies there.”

School choice for parents of first year kindergartners dominates so much conversation, that you never even overhear a conversation of two mothers not discussing it. Until last weekend. Kate Murphy and Kelly Collazo were out having a drink at The Berkshire, both of whom have pre-schoolers who will be attending Stapleton schools next year. However, the topic of their kids’ schooling never came up. They discussed other topics such as dads they thought were good looking in Stapleton, fun they used to have when they were single, and drama going on at their office. Nothing about Stapleton schools. “It’s okay to go out and have a fun conversation instead of having to be ‘on’ all the time,” says Collazo. “The truth is, I think all of the Stapleton schools will be fine for my kids, so I’m not freaking out about it.” Murphy agrees. “People need to relax a little,” says Murphy. “Worry about your parenting at home, and your kids will be fine. It’s okay to go out and have a fun time with friends and not worry about them judging you because you ‘don’t seem to care’ about your kids’ educations. Come on and live a little.”

Murphy and Collazo understand that they are definitely judged by others when they don’t engage in school conversations. “It’s just exhausting having to hear the same stuff over and over,” says Murphy. “There is nothing fun about it for me. There are more entertaining things to talk about, and we have already heard this same conversation 100 times.” Collazo agrees. “When it comes up, I usually find an excuse to leave the area and not come back,” says Collazo. Murphy says that parents shouldn’t overanalyze school choice too much, but if they are going to, “keep it to yourself.”

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